Ethical Adoption: Forewarned is Forearmed
AfrIndie Mum is an adoptive mother who promotes ethical adoption. I came across a great post, come together, on her blog today. In this post is a list of things to consider when choosing an adoption agency. Read these guidelines carefully, and act accordingly!
- Choose a large, ethical, non-profit agency that networks for it's programs with other agencies throughout the U.S. If a large, ethical agency works with smaller agencies and insists on them adhering to the same ethical behaviors, these behaviors will become the norm, and change will happen.
- Make sure these agencies provide separate, third-party counselors to the pregnant women seeking information on adoption.
- Make sure that these counselors counsel their clients on all of their options, including parenting, adoption and abortion.
- Make sure that the counselors assist their clients in finding whatever resources necessary to assist them in whatever decision they make.
- Check that these counselors are available to their clients before, during and after their decisions.
- Check that these counselors do not receive bonuses depending on the outcome of their client's decision.
- Make certain that the agency practices and encourages open adoptions.
- Let for-profit and other unethical adoption agencies know which of their policies would morally prevent me from working with them and why. If they see enough input from clients they could have had, maybe they will change their ways.
- Make certain that the woman who chooses us has made her decision on her own, free from coercion.
- If matched pre-birth, ensure that she knows that we support her to make whatever decisions are best for her and her baby. And if that decision is to parent, that we will be there to help her obtain the support she needs to parent. Watch for signs of her changing her mind, and encourage her to explore those signs further.
- Not pay birthparent expenses. Hello, coercion.
- Understand what services the placement fees cover and how the agencies came to that level of placement fee.
- Not work with agencies that charge more money for biracial babies than for African American babies.
- Not work with an attorney or an adoption facilitator. Not pursue a private adoption.