Happy 4th!

Well, it's been so long since I've posted that I almost forgot my Blogger password!

Worse still, Bloglines tells me I have somewhere in the neighborhood of 4,000 posts to catch up on. Fortunately, the "mark all posts read" feature will let me start over. With that many posts out there, I know you all have been writing while I've been taking care of business here at home, and although I'll never catch up on all of them, I hope to catch up on everyONE very soon.

With June blessedly behind us, our family is recovering from the chaos we faced at the end of the school year. We're not entirely out of the woods yet - we're awaiting a judgment from our local school board that will determine if we have to lodge and appeal or nor - but the worst is definitely over.

It's interesting to me how adoption faded so quickly into the background as we worked through this challenge. And LOL, it's equally interesting to me how quickly I went from plain old mom to rebellious '60s protester. One of our son's friends gave him a graduation card with the sentiment "question authority" - and that's what I was doing through the entire month of June.

Although things are looking up for us, there are many things about this experience that will keep me questioning, and taking action as well. The imperious behavior of some of our son's school administrators for one, and the unbridled power of the school board reps. I believe completely that if we had simply rolled over, our son would have been expelled. What made the difference for him is that we could afford an attorney. No one should have to buy justice, but even in this relatively minor situation, it's exactly what we had to do.

And then there's the racial component, which troubles me still. Although I can't point to any overt action that race was a factor, the proximity of our son's experience and the tragedy at Virginia Tech - and even September 11, through his principal's own words - nags at me. In the waiting room were an Asian (our son), and two other young men of Middle Eastern and Hispanic ethnicities. Of course the demographics of one waiting room at one point in one day don't tell the whole story, but it gave me pause.

I do have some adoption-related news to share. First, I attended a reception last week sponsored by the Evan B. Donaldson Institute announcing that they are gearing up their legislative efforts at the Federal level. Donaldson's Executive Director, Adam Pertman, spoke about the Institute's priorities, many of which address the very issues we talk about here online: adoptee records and first parent rights, to name the top two. I've long believed that although we have to fight bad laws state by state, we should also be working on legislation at the Federal level. Donaldson's announcement was therefore very good news to me.

I'm also excited that the KAAN Conference is right around the corner - and even more excited to say that Claud and I will be doing a session together. KAAN, for those who may not be familiar with it, is the Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network. If you haven't been to a KAAN conference yet, GO! Great sessions, great people, and lots of fun - this will be my ninth, and I fully expect to attend every one as long as they last. This year's conference is in Boston, by the way, very convenient for all us east coasters!

So - slowly, slowly I will be back. I hope everyone is having a wonderful 4th of July and a great summer! I also wish all the dads a belated Happy Father's Day!

And apropos of nothing - does anyone else think it feels like Sunday?

Comments

Margie we're on the same wavelength with dads today! That's funny.

You have no idea how happy I was to log into my reader and see you had posted. I've been thinking about you nonstop. I'm so happy the worst is over and I hope the woods will be all behind you soon enough.
Yes, it DOES feel like Sunday!

And I'm glad the worst of it is over, although your school administrators (I'm not overly fond of educational administration in general anyways, except I save my hope for my brother who's in higher education administration) sound horrible!!

I hope the rest of your summer is much better, for you and especially for your son. None of you deserve this.

Great to see you back here. Much much love and strength to you.
Irshlas said…
Glad you're back! And yes, it most definitely has felt like a Sunday all day. Hopefully the rest of your summer will be happier days
:-)
I am glad things are closer to being resolved.

I think it feels like Saturday.

MSP
Gwen said…
I'm so glad the worst is behind you. I'm sorry for everything your family has and will have to endure.

It's great to have you back.
abebech said…
Margie, glad to have you back and hope it all concludes in your family's favor.
tina said…
Get out of my brain! I was saying it was Sunday all day yesterday...how funny and I'm glad I'm not the only one.

I'm so glad that the worst of your family's fight is behind you. I hope you are able to have a good summer now.

Margie, with people like you involved in open records and more rights for first parents, how can we lose? I hope that one day I have in my little mitts my very own original birth certificate. Thank you for being part of another good fight.

Tina
Well I think you and your son enjoying summer...I always admire you

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