Friends

For the past year or so, my best friends and I have been planning a getaway weekend. Finally, last weekend, we made it happen. Although I wouldn't put Ocean City, Maryland at the top of a January vacation list, we got a great deal on a timeshare ($27 each - and that rented the condo for an entire week), planned a bunch of indoor and outdoor activities, and hit the road.

Our group began way back when with nine of us; there are eight now. The fact that we're all adoptive moms and our kids are all Korean formed the foundation of our friendship, although it no longer defines it. Some of us knew each other before we adopted, some of us have worked together or have been neighbors, too. Over the years these connections grew and grew until our little group became very tight, and we realized we had something really special.

We literally wrote our friendship in stone climbing to the top of Soraksan when we traveled to Korea together in 2001, and toasted it with soju to celebrate the climb. When we returned home, we promised to keep our friendship alive forever.

We aren’t all that similar. Our personalities run the gamut from off-the-charts A-type through down-to-earth to laid-back hippie. We have different professions, jobs and passions. We practice different faiths and none at all, although our politics , interestingly, are almost identical. But I think what binds us more than anything is the fact that we all acknowledge, and are willing to say out loud, how special our friendship is.

You can find us on the first Sunday of almost every month at a pastry shop we love, drinking coffee and tea and talking about what's going on in our lives. We cried a lot together after our dear friend MG passed away on January 31st, 2005. Mourning her loss made us realize just how important it was for us to nurture our friendship, and to never take it for granted.

In some ways, our weekend on the eastern shore was nothing special - we did a little shopping, some cooking and eating, and a lot of talking and laughing. But in fact it was very special indeed.

I love my friends – they are the truest blessing there is. I hope each and every one of you has friends like these, too. If you do, waste no time – tell them you love them, today. Call them, invite them over, organize a get-together. Just do it.

Because as I learned the hard way, sometimes the opportunity is lost forever.

Comments

Suz Bednarz said…
Awww. Sweet post. Why do your posts always make me cry? I am such a big old baby!

And look at your cutie Ralph there. I swear I still want to tickle him and bust that stoic German exterior. Hee hee.

Interestingly, I did indeed, randomly, tell a friend today for no reaon at all that I adore them and am better for having them in my life. I tend to do that randomly, when an overwhelming surge of love for a friend hits me and it always, always suprises them.
Margie said…
:) I'm just a sentimental fool, and I guess it comes out in my writing.

I'm with you - when the thought hits, I tell my friends how much they mean to me. With this group, it has become second nature. We're really, really close.

Hey, will try to catch up with you on your blog over the next couple of days. I was out of town for two days, and busy every evening, and still can't comment on any Typepad blods from anywhere but home. It's weird.
Suz Bednarz said…
Typepad must have some odd script that is blocked by many corporate firewalls. I know I have had similar issues. Until recently, my own blog comment box would not show up if I viewed it from work.

No worries on catching up. I know you love me.

: )
Margie said…
I tried again today and got in, woo hoo! Don't know how long it'll last, but hopefully it's good to go.
sster said…
Thank you for the reminder, Margie. I'm pretty far away from most of my friends but I certainly could write them more! I'm sorry about what happened to your dear friend. That's the kind of pain that never goes away.
Beloved said…
What a beautiful post.

How wonderful that you have these amazing friendships in your life and that you are all making the time to nurture them. In this crazy world, that's really nothing short of extraordinary.
KimKim said…
You value the things that matter. Just wanted to drop by and let you know I am still reading your blog.

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