I hate hate

I've read this article over and over in complete disbelief. Go read, and come back. Transracial adoptive parents, I'm especially talking to you.

Each time I read it I see a different face in the photo - The Boy's, The Girl's, my friends' children, my neighbors. What Kyle Descher experienced could happen to any of our transracially-adopted kids; refusing to believe this and failing to speak and act puts them at risk and allows these crimes to continue that much longer.

Hate crime certainly isn't an adoption issue per se, but I believe adoptive parents have a particular responsibility to actively speak out and work against it. There are so many ways you can do that in your communities and here online. Start by reading to raise your awareness of the issues - here are a few of the blogs I read to do that:
angry asian man
Anti-Racist Parent
Kimchi Mamas
New Demographic
Rachel's Tavern
Racialicious
readingspark
Rice Daddies
WhitePrivilege.com
What else? Talk about racial issues, write about them on your blogs. Although that may be hard for us white adoptive parents, the fact is we owe it to our children to acknowledge the reality of their world. Racially-motivated crimes happen in that world, and no pretending on our part can change that. Acknowledge it, talk and write about it. Let the world know it's an issue that's important to you. (Shameless plug: Be sure to link to Anti-Racist Parent and Racialicious in your blogroll.)

Like John Hughes, the article's author and Kyle Descher's uncle says, I hate hate. So I'm going to do something about it.

Thanks to The Transracial Korean Adoptee Nexus for posting the article.

Comments

ourwildride said…
Wow Margie. Just what I didn't want to think about this morning. Sigh. And it isn't just the action of the perpetrator but also the mentality of 'nobody wants to get involved' that hurts us all. I recognize in myself the tendency to walk away when I come face to face with ignorance rather than call it out because it just doesn't seem worth it. Even while knowing this allows the status quo to be maintained rather than changed.
Margaret said…
This article is terribly upsetting and frightening. Every time I read an article like this, I think of my son.

I'm trying to impress this now on my family, so that they understand that my children, whom they love, are at risk of being targets. These stories don't make front page news typically and you may not find them if you don't actively seek them out. It's hard to get people to understand when they aren't really aware of what goes on out there.

The author makes a statement about ignorance and hatred that I think is particularly concise and to the point: "left unchallenged, it metastasizes." Every day I try to make it my business to challenge racism when I see it and I wish I could say I was always successful.
Ansley said…
'Acknowledge it, talk and write about it. Let the world know it's an issue that's important to you.'

This is the thing I think whites struggle with most of all. But if we are white parents of children of color, we must take up the cross of racism in our communities. When we choose to adopt we make that commitment to our children's birth families, foster families, and sending countries. Most of all, we owe it to our sons and daughters; who will mive in the society we have brought them to.
Margie said…
Ansley, that's exactly what I was thinking as I wrote this. It's hard as a white person to know how to serve anti-racism best. Being a witness, not letting events like this one pass by without notice, make sure the world around us knows we will not tolerate racism may be our most important role.

Thanks for commenting!
Anonymous said…
Hi Margie,
I also recommend reading the essays written by Tim Wise on his website http://www.timwise.org/

Mollie
Ansley said…
Time Wise is awesome. I gtet to hear him speak last fall and it was amazing!

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