Distrusting the movement, not disdaining the faith

As much as I want to see and end to adoption injustice, it's difficult to write posts like the one from the other day about the Christian adoption movement. Calling out Christianity, which is so closely aligned with this movement, feels like bashing. I've been wondering if I'd write the same way about it if it were the Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist or Hindu orphan care and adoption movement, and have decided that I wouldn't. I think one reason I feel I can criticize the movement openly is because I'm a Christian myself. But as a Roman Catholic, I also know there's a chasm between me and my conversative non-Catholic sisters and brothers. To you, my criticism may therefore feel more like I'm throwing stones at your faith.

I'm not. I know that those of you who promote the Christian adoption movement believe, deeply, that you have been called by God to help the world's children and families. I respect your your ability to hear God's voice so clearly and to respond to it so readily. I'm frankly a little envious of you.

Still, we have to remember that when we help others, it's also possible to do harm. Shoddy and unethical adoption practices and corruption aren't imaginary; they hurt the bodies and spirits of real live people. Even though my faith is flawed, I know, without a doubt, that God does not want anyone to ignore these dangers. He wants us to stop them.

So please understand: although I distrust and dislike this movement, I do not disdain the faith that fuels it. I respect it, and respect its commitment to children. I in turn want proponents of the Christian adoption movement to respect those of us who seek to protect children and families from unethical adoptions.

I'm praying that someday our paths merge.


Kris said…
Margie, you are more tolerant than me. I think it is ridiculous when people put their human desires, like the desire to adopt, on God. It is arrogant to the extreme. I believe in God. But I don't think he is putting the desire to adopt in people's hearts. That is a human desire.

When you truly serve God, you are completely selfless. You do not get anything out of it for yourself. This obviously does not apply to adoptive parents.
Margie said…
Hi, Kris. I completely agree. What I don't think is appropriate or pertinent to the discussion of the "Christian adoption movement" is when people who opposed the movement begin to direct their ire toward Christian people generally.

To me, that smacks of the same thing we saw after September 11 in regards to Muslims, certainly not as extreme but heading down the same path.

I don't believe all Christians, nor even all conservative or Evangelical Christians, are responsible for the Christian adoption movement mess. Suggesting they are is unlikely to get the ones who understand the failures of the movement to speak out against it. It's important that they do, in the same way it's important for Catholics to speak out against the way Catholic Church leadership is mis-handling the priest abuse scandal.

Hope that clarifies :)
kaozlady said…
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